In the name of Love

I thought love was just a mirage of the mind,
it's an illusion, it's fake, impossible to find.
But the day I met you, I began to see,
that love is real, and exists in me.

                                                                                                              - Chris Farmer - 

 

Love is something that everyone wants to have and feel, it is most beautiful thing that can ever happen to someone. It is always very nice to have someone special in your life, the one who can be with you in all times, appreciates, holds you when you fall, share all the elite moments with you.

Human beings are social animals; we need people we can’t live alone. As we grow we nurture in many relationships. One such is acquaintance of the man/lady of your life.

But many times we hear someone telling that they found their true love and the same person complaining that her/his companion has changed over time. So what happened to your true love? Does the person have really changed? Did you lose the charm in your relation? No!! Nothing is true.

Most of us mistake our “Emotional Dependency” as love, when you are with someone for quite long time you feel you are so attached to that person, if you think you are compatible and can be together life long, if so check it once again, he/she may not be the right one.

When your close pal and that too opposite sex, you tend to be with them, after long time you sense a feeling that “you cannot live without them”. Are you serious about it? No you can. It is only that you can’t cope up with your emotional addiction of that person, and can’t sense the void you feel.

What lie other side of the coin  in a relationship, you mistake “True Love”, and start being possessive about your partner. You keep asking about each and every thing  what they do, where they go? Two minutes delay irritates you, attending any other important work makes you think that they are ignoring you.

 

You feel you are loving and caring more than them and start grabbing the other person space which makes your partner suffocate .That is where your partner moves away. You tend to complain they have changed.

Everything has its own limits, true love is what everyone wants and wish for, never in the name of true love suffocate your partner. Don’t completely rely on your partner for emotional support or needs. Be independent. 

 

Falling in love doesn't mean you have found "True Love", sometimes, you are yet to find...

and now stop saying "I cannot live without you" or "I cannot imagine my life without you".. Emotional dependency ruins relationships. So keep check on your emotions..

Never Allow your emotions to overrule you...

 

When are you getting married??

These days whomever I meet, wherever I go I hear everyone asking me the same”when are you getting married?” Only people and their expressions change, but question remains the same. So do you think that I have answer for that or I can propose a date for my marriage? If so I am sorry I cannot and you are in soup.

When I find someone asking me this I look at them with an innocent face and say "ya we are looking for groom and it is still ….. blah blah blah”

People do you realize how annoying that is to me????

After this my well-wishers give their own version of preaching ,So what I hear there:

1. Hey dear you are getting old, you should get marry fast.. Well “how fast?”

2. All you friends are married and they have kids, you are still single..Does that hurt u?? Well I am happy  being single

3. It’s already late and by the time you give birth to kids it would be late  and whispers in my ear (there are chances that you may not have babies) “so what now??? Can I have babies first and then marry??”

4. Your parents are getting older they may not be able to support in your domestic activities after marriage “well I don’t have any problem in that, do u have any?

5. When will you settle in your life and when can you have home for yourself? Excuse me!!am i on roads now?

6. Security in life: You will have one that special person to take care of you.

7. Your marriage market value will come down, you may not get good guys.

It really sucks to keep on listing their preaching..so i am cutting the crap here...

I have never told anyone  that  i won't get marry in my life , so my dear well wishers be cool. coming to the questions you ask, let me try  answering at least few

Marriage gives  security and a person to be with u through out your life, what if due to some reasons if i lose that person in very short span?? So security is not always on the other person, its mutual.

Having babies might be difficult if i get older, but i have seen many people delivering at the age of 35. If i cannot have,I always  can adopt one. well that may give a heart attack for you.but that is fact.

My parents getting older, agreed, but i want my parents to be with me not just i  need them to work for me.

As far as to me this  topics goes for quite number of pages. So what i say 

To all my well wishers have patience,cupid is taking time to search Mr. Right for me...I understand  "Marriage Matters". But then, My marriage date is important to me than you  so don't worry much about it.

P.S: Stop annoying people asking stupid questions, you never know what the other person problems are, the reasons behind and moreover everything can't be explained to you

What it takes to achieve your goals?

Well, every one of us frame  goals in a limited time and we strive to  accomplish them in the upcoming months or years. But in the flow of our busy life schedules (be it domestic or work related) we tend to neglect them and as we move closer to our goals, we are left with disappointment or might have achieved less than what we expected?

That is when, our disappointment in life starts. Many times we hear people saying "hey it’s been 1 year, I have not seen any progress in my career/life or I have not achieved anything remarkable this year".

So now the question is "What we have to do to accomplish our goals?" I would like to list out some points from my own experience, may be you might be aware of these

1. Prioritize: How much ever busy may be your life, always remember what is your goal and things you have to pursue in achieving it. Prioritize the things and focus.

2. Determination: Never allow your determination to fall as time pass, keep the fires ON till you achieve.

3. Believe in yourself: Never doubt your abilities in the process, you always fall if you doubt yourself, be confident and move on towards the goals

4. Take responsibility: Never blame others/situations for your failures, either good or bad take responsibility for everything that happens in the process.

5. Keep your goals small: Don’t try to have targets bigger than you abilities. Keep manageable goals and achieve big goals in course of time.

6. Stay away from people who say you can’t: always it’s good to be surrounded by people who appreciate your progress rather who distract you from achieving your goals.

7. Value your time: Never waste time in unwanted things.

8. Be independent: Never be dependent on anyone to help you, dependency leads to disappointment. Learn to be independent.

9. Stay Fit: Never neglect your health, health is wealth, without that all your efforts go waste. So never compromise, Eat well and sleep well.

10. Family, Friends & Hobbies: Spend good time with family & friends, it boosts your confidence. Have a hobby, it always keeps you happy from inside and breaks the monotonous routine.

 

 

Go ahead and grab yours goals !!!

 P.S: Well this is a different post from all that i posted till today, I hope you appreciate.

 

P.S.S: You may feel the above content is similar to what you might have read either in books or on internet, but i acknowledge it is purely written by me during my introspection last night.

No title post

Situation:

Me: Sitting at my desk, starring at the monitor with tears in eyes, worrying about the piles of tasks I have to complete for today but still waiting when the day will end.

What I am busy with? Sneezing, coughing and in wiping my nose

Around me: People running busily here and there, Few people discussing never ending stupid points loudly, few are giggling loudly Weird ringtones, tuck.. Tuck.. Key board sounds.

What I feel: so sick and in bad mood, getting irritated for all the petty things. May be coz of cold, fever and headache I feel I am exhausting myself .I am just going blank with this mind-numbing headache.

If so why blog?? : I know you will ask me this, but I am sorry I don’t hv a reason, by the way do I need to give you reason? :P

It’s so weird though I am sick.. Hmm I am missing my vicks inhaler.. Ahhhhhh!! This is just a lazy and sick day. I am just dreaming of bed in my room how nice it would be if I crawl into my warm blanket and catch so good sleep.. Well that would be an awesome idea, let me take off from work 

 

Cya

P.S: I am wondering today, though i have fever i came to office to meet deadlines.. Is so damn important in life?? :(

 

Why only woman are to be blamed for rape?

It looks completely weird to me when I read what Karnataka's Women & Child Welfare minister C. C. Patil quoted saying that women should “know how much skin they should cover” and the similar opinion which was expressed 3 days ago by Andhra Pradesh DGP Dinesh Reddy who blamed women fashionable clothing is cause for the rise in rape cases.

Well let me take their point, if woman are the sole reason for rise in rape due to their revealing clothing, then

1. Why are kids/under aged girls getting raped or molested, do you think they have something to seduce men???
2. Why are fathers raping their daughters?
3. Why are students being molested by teachers in villages?
4. If your mother or sister looks sexy, do you try to rape them? Or you think of morals?
5. Can any man guarantee me no rape if a woman is covered completely?
6. What is the reason for rapes in small towns and villages where people don’t wear western wear at all?
7. What is your answer for the 23 year old Soumya who was raped in train while travelling to kochi...??? (FYI she was wearing salwar)
8. And one more question which is sexier and revealing “saree” or a “T-shirt & jeans”??

People don’t just blame women for rape, there are couple of other reasons too, one being important is the poor & corrupted law, and our law takes 15 years to punish one rapist. Then who has to be blamed here?

Why the hell no one says men to control their emotions?

Men too wear their low hip jeans showing their ass cleavage and hairy chests, if a woman is trying to provoke you then what are you trying to do?

People for god sake grow up!!!

Stop being judgmental, rather have some morals in life.

One last question, if your mother, wife or sister get raped due to her revealing clothes, do you leave the criminal saying that was your woman fault?? Or you stand by them for justice?

100% no you fight against the criminal to get the justice for your woman...

So be nice to other woman too they too belong to some family. 

 

 

P.S: People this my view /opinion i don't compel anyone to agree with me..

Thank You "2011"

Dear 2011,

My journey in 2011 had Exciting highs, Depressing lows passing through plenty of peaks & troughs mixed with emotions in between.

There was good and bad, but I have learnt to accept and grow instead questioning “why it happens to me?” I know sometimes I cannot do anything about it. Thanks for making me strong.

You gave me new friends and new enemies, I thank you for posing some challenges before me and for making me wiser.

I believe there is reason for everything that happens in life, so here I go “I enjoy the Ride of Life”.

Thanks for teaching me many things and making me mature.

I here say Goodbye to you and welcome the New Year 2012

Miss you 2011 (not crazily) ;)

P.S: I wish everyone a Happy and Prosperous New Year.. Have a Rocking Year Ahead...

Cheers!!

“Public Display of Affection” How much is really too much?

A Scene in bus @ 11. PM

Mr & Mrs. X boarded the bus, occupied their reserved seats.

Mrs. X : Hey push the seat back and be comfortable, otherwise u may get back pain jaanu

Mr.X: Turn off the AC, already u have cold... it may get worst again

Mrs.X: Have a sip of water (forcibly she pours water in to his mouth  and wipes his lips with her dhupatta )

Mr.X grabs her hand and keeps her palm under his ears,

Mrs X smiles and gently pampers him, giving slight massages on his head with her finger tips.

Bus starts….

Both of them use one blanket to cover (though two were available...) started giggling and pampering each other… (May be they thought it’s their bedroom)

I understand public display of affection is common, but how much it should be? & what about people around them?

Well the point is how much is too much?

Many people think public display of affection is sweet and a form of caring, but I want to tell you again it’s fine as long as you won’t make people around you uncomfortable. If you are doing so, it means you are doing something wrong in public.

People nobody will say Awww!!! They are cool, that’s warm... They say "AHHHH Yuck"!!!

People so use ur brains and don’t have pleasure at cost of someone’s inconvenience 

P.S: this is my opinion/view ,i am not trying to compel anyone to hate it... i don't mind if u hate me for hating PDA

P.S: one more thing, i Hate people who use their flashy mobile phones in buses after lights are turned off... and I hate your weird ring tones and loud voices too