The lies of Modern World

One study found that people tell two to three lies every 10 minutes, and even conservative estimates indicate that we lie at least once a day. According to another study conducted by the University of Massachusetts, 60% of adults can’t have a ten minute conversation without lying at least once. 

We all are liars!!!

The lies that do not hurt anyone and are for a good reason we call them as white lies. Everyone tells a lie, sometimes they help to escape from a uncomfortable situation or hold on to someone, buy you time, save relationships or comfort someone and I guess this is a big list and it goes on. Here are some lies of modern world  which we here every day:

• I am fine
• I will be there in five minutes
• I would have reached on time, but hell lot of traffic
• I am busy, call you back
• Your table will be ready in 5 minutes.
• Don’t worry; medicine has improved a lot these days
• I am on diet
• From tomorrow i will exercise for sure
• This is my last cigarette 
• I will quit drinking
• I am not drunk
• Nothing is wrong.
• you are the best thing ever happened to  me
• Definitely I will attend (invitation for wedding/any social gathering)
• You are not fat
• He/she is just a friend
• I will finish the work ASAP
• Aww wow! That’s a nice gift and thank you 
• We will try our best.
• It’s ok!
• It happens for a reason
• I make sure, this will never happen again.

This is all I remember as of now.. Admit it that  you've lied, and contribute to this list...

A Strange Journey

I was travelling to my home town on December 31st. When Clock clicked twelve and the calendar changed to January –its New Year, everyone in the bus started calling their families, friends and wishing a "Happy New Year". Suddenly someone wished me “Happy New Year” I looked at him, he was a guy in ripped jeans, messy hair like a bird’s nest and with a huge yellow  headphones. Talking to stranger was never easy for me but wishing him back was the only option I had and I choose it. He started a conversation with me enquiring details. I politely refused to share and closed my eyes and got lost in my thoughts. I was restless with mixed emotions as a guy is coming to see me in the morning.

Next day, as usual practice I got ready and was waiting for the guy and his family. They arrived and are talking to my parents in the hall. My mother asked my aunt to bring me. With huge butterflies in stomach I walked in to hall and sat before the guy. To my surprise it was that ripped jeans guy with a nest on his head. I have widened my eyes and starred at him without any second thought,  he was neatly shaved with a decent haircut, with a formal dressing . I recollected his face; yes he is the same person. I smiled at him and said "hello" and that’s when it all started…

No one falls in love by choice, it is by chance, January 1st is the day I have met him for first time and I had no idea that He is the one for me. The past few months with him has been absolutely great and I started believing in destiny.

Every day we come across many strangers, some come as blessings and some as lessons, few stay and be few chapters of life and few become part of your life in my strange journey the stranger became "love of My life"

This post is a part of Write Over the Weekend, an initiative for Indian Bloggers by BlogAdda.

January Beginnings

The year 2014 is just done and it was learning year for me. Though I didn't make much of progress on personal and professional front but I learnt life’s best lessons , became stronger than before and much more organized in doing things. It was a year with 50-50 % of Ups & Downs.

I lost a friend and moved out from few friends. Got a good hike in salary, changed more than half of my wardrobe, couple of shoes added to the rack, I am back to my love (i.e sketching), started reading loads of books, pampering self more, connected to new people in my professional network, learning a new language and important thing is I discovered my passion for cooking and improved it a lot :)

I must say, it is not a bad year !!

We just rushed in to New Year and here comes January- a month for setting goals, making resolutions, new beginnings. I am wondering what 2015 has stored in for me and I am all excited for that. Instead, naming resolutions I like to pick few things to work on throughout the year. Now I'm ready for a new set of challenges . Here go my challenges 

• Get rid of negativity
• Come out of comfort zone and to take a risk
• Be punctual- a key to success
• Make time for exercise and stay fit
• Take care of health and eat more of fresh fruits and veggies
• Pray more
• Learn baking
• Overcome a fear 
• Importantly just be awesome because it’s a time to reflect on the changes I want to make.

Here ends my post with "Cheers to a New Year and for another 365 chances".

Wishing you all a Very Happy and Prosperous New Year ..

Do share your thoughts/resolutions/challenges..

Rock the world with love and peace

Love,

Bharathi.

Do you need certification in your career?

I have been playing role of Project Manager off and on, it was my goal to focus on project management and prove my managerial skills in handling huge & versatile projects. That has not always been facile. 

The first impediment I faced was how to present myself as a Project Management professional. 

While I have a diverse background with vigorous project management skills, relying on just a resume, especially in today's economy didn't seem sufficient so I decided to get certified. One of my friend suggested that PMP (Project Management Professional) is the most desired certification. I enrolled myself and took the exam, but sadly I failed to clear the exam in spite of putting good efforts.

Then I tried to understand more about the certification and its relevance to my career path and my field of specialization. Dolefully the certification I have culled was not apt for my field. 

It was puzzle for me did I waste my time and money on a certification that might not mean anything? Of course I acquired knowledge.

This wasn't enough for me. I took further step to do a small research on do we need certification in career?

First thing I did was examining the people in the positions which I relish to aim for. Obviously, the best places to search are LinkedIn and the company job listings. I checked what kind of certifications they have and whether they are titles given by becoming a member of professional groups or exam based certifications.

After few interactions with few people and reading blog & articles, I learnt that

• You need them because companies make it mandatory for  certain jobs. 
• You are ought to take up certification because they are position specific.
• You need it to beat the competition around and to stand out in the crowd.
• You have the real urge for the knowledge 
• The most significant benefit is in the pay check it brings (if only a specific certification matters to the place you work)
• Last but not the least , they show that you are on learning curve and capable of retaining ( you have renew your certifications once in 3 or 5 years based on the organization that certifies) and committed to career path you have chosen.

So my take is Yes Certifications Can Avail You Get a Job...As Long as you choose the right certification.

And for the people, who do not want to take up, don’t worry still you  can make great career, for inspiration  have a look at these top people.

• Mr. Anil Manibhai Naik - Group Executive Chairman of Larsen & Toubro Limited has degree in mechanical engineering from the prestigious Birla Viswakarma Mahavidyalaya Engineering College. His hard work ,commitment ,passion towards career and his best managerial skills has made him one of the India’s Best CEOs and bagged him with outstanding business leader awards.

• Mr. N.Chandrasekaran - Chief Executive Officer, TCS  has completed  Masters in Computer Applications from the REC , Trichy is highest paid CEO in India’s IT sector and received  Honorary doctorate for his significant contributions toward business and society from Netherlands and is one the top India's CEOs ,2014

• Mr Kapil Mehan, Managing Director,Coromandel International is one of the best CEO Agriculture & Allied (Large Companies) holds a Post Graduate Diploma in Management from IIM, Ahmedabad

• Mrs. Chanda Kochhar, MD& CEO of ICICI, is honoured with Padma Bhushan Award and ranked as the most powerful business woman in India in Forbes list. She holds Masters Degree in Management Studies from Jamnalal Bajaj Institute of Management Studies, Mumbai.

and the list goes on..

The world gives you plenty of opportunities to make your dreams come true.

keep the fire in you  burning and follow you passion..

Love,

Bharathi.

The Good Wife

Wake up in the morning; drowsily pick up phone and WHAT?! 8 messages??

Rubbing eyes opens the messages.....

T234509 is interested in your profile say yes to communicate further!

Hi, I sent you a personalized message

Hi Bharathi , T879578 may be interested in you as he visited your Profile. Take the next step and Connect with him!
                                                Blah blah blah.....

Putting phone down and I go about my normal day.

From past few days my phone is being fed with these kinds of messages as I have crossed the threshold age of an Indian woman. My parents, friends, relatives and well-wishers are trying to marry me off. I am spending more time on these matrimonial sites than on face book and twitter. And the result is exchanging mails, horoscopes and latest pictures.

The important thing in woman’s life is ‘Marriage’ and in our society marriage give the status of “Complete Woman” .Wherever I go someone or the other keep preaching me how essential marriage is for a happy, secure and stable life. I understand that and I am not against marriage.#To the people who think I don't understand

I keep reading the profiles of prospective grooms and their partner preferences. Many out there write looking for “Good Wife”. The point that I never understand  is how they define “Good Wife”. is it based on her beauty, education, hobbies, salary, family background etc etc?

Most of the grooms and their parents have predetermined parameters such as level of education and salary range, body type, skin color, height, weight etc that they expect the girl to fit into. 

Recently I sent an interest to one person whose parameters matched with mine. And his partner preference column is filled with “looking for Good Wife”. I thought I can be good wife and so I proceeded further. But sadly, he rejected my interest and said he is looking for a good wife who earns same  as him, should be jovial blah blah..... blah.

I laughed at that mail, how someone can judge a person as a good wife by looking at their profile which merely gives a picture and statistics? And the scary part is does girl’s salary is so important? Are the girls with less salary are unappealing?

Since then I was trying to find the definition of Good Wife and ended up writing this post.

Marriage according to me is a conscious decision to spend your life with someone who is compatible and you enjoy being around with them for the rest of your life. What does it have to do with a woman’s salary or any other variable that change over time? 

Finally, I want to say that the imaginary scenes we play in our heads are not realistic. Being good or bad depends on both man and woman. To have a good wife, you have to be able to communicate efficiently, be your partner’s best friend and maintain your own identity by respecting her thoughts & actions.

Perfect Good wife is not born; she has to be made out of your actions. So!! Dear Men,come out of the MYTH.

P.S: This is not my frustration, it is just a sharing... and a Question to find out the definition of Good wife 

Break free

These days my life is on roller-coaster and I was taking important life decisions, at one point I questioned myself "What could be my life if I had absolutely no limits and what I would choose?" I felt I was stuck in life for various reasons, but I was not the reason behind it, but it was the belief system I have.

Every one of us has formed a belief system and we believe that we can’t break free from that and then get stuck in life many times. I felt I am addicted to that belief system and I can't break free from it, no matter how hard I try.

After long analysis I decided that it is always good to let go off thinking that no longer applies to my life and I changed it. The  mantras of my  new belief system are:

• I don’t have to be perfect.
• I am not placed here to please everyone.
• I can pursue my dreams without fear.
• I don’t have to stay in a job which I don’t like.
• I don’t have to spend time with people who aren't healthy for me.
• Stop bothering about what people talk about me

And..."Break free!!" Love yourself, Be nice to you, pamper yourself, take care of yourself. 

 

P.S: The post is boring, but I want to write  the flow of my thoughts and the things I wish to let go off :) Thanks for reading

Black is BOLD

Black symbolizes power, mystery, strength, authority and elegance. It’s a colour that gives a sense of independence and a strong will.Black is a colour that is used in every walk of our life be it technology, house furnishings, kitchenware, stationary. We all wrote our first letters on a black slate. For hue variation of any colour, black is require.

My mother always says to carry something black or put a dot with kohl on sole when I travel as it absorbs negative energy and protect me from any harm happening.

Psychology state that “people who like black may be conventional, conservative and serious or they may think of themselves as being sophisticated or very dignified”, I am not sure of these things. But black makes me look classic, comforts my eye and I feel I own that color.

So now coming to 5 Black things I love to own

1. Black Tattoo

Yes I want to ink my skin in black. I feel that is the one which stays with me permanently even when my hair becomes grey, my tooth fall off and when life fades away. It shows a significant aspect of my life. It would be my bold decision forever.

 2. Black Mac Book Air

Yes Mac Book!!!  Apple has created its revolution in the field of technology, I would be proud to own a Mac Book Air, not that the regular kind. But a BLACK Mac, which flaunts  white Apple logo on it. Having 10 years of relationship with windows and using all the versions of OS ,I want to try Mac OS. And it is obviously a classy gadget :)

3. Black Kohl

They say "Eyes are the windows to the soul and that if you look deep within you can see the persons sincerity and truth". We learn to associate identity of the world with our eyes, eyes are more important in communicating with other people, sometimes we convey big things through our eyes. I am very thankful to my eyes which show me this beautiful world and so I love to show them beautifully to this world. I like to enhance my eyes by applying kohl. Eyes look so damn pretty with Kohl.

4. A Black Cross Pen 

"The Pen is mightier than a sword".

I have a habit of writing down personal dairy about my day-to-day events, I believe that when I write down all these things and they become my story. I use black pen and would love to own a Black coloured Pen from Cross Brand which is America's oldest manufacturer of fine writing instruments.

 5. Black dress

Last but not least, I desire to own a perfect black formal wear,because it looks Classy, Elegant and Fabulous.Black brings Elegant look , after all Elegance is the only beauty that never fades.

This is my list of 5 black things I desire for..



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