On weekends, one should get lucky to get a vacant trail room as soon as you want to try a dress. On such a busy Sunday, I was waiting for my turn to try a dress. There I found this girl who almost picked up many clothes to try accompanied by her mom. Whatever she wears her mom says only one thing "ee colour suit avvadu ra nee colour ki konchem vere colour try cheyi" (color doesn’t suit on you, may be you have to try another one) and the girl kept on saying "konchem tellaga undalisindi amma nenu" (I should have been a bit fair ).
Crap!! Every dress she wore was just looking perfect on her. The girl was really pretty with proper body curves and above all she had a very beautiful smile.
I am also a dusky skinned girl woman. Whenever I visit any beauty parlour, first thing they tell me is my skin is so tanned and I should try anti-tan pack, I always tell them, “that is my original skin colour” and lord sun has not played any role in it. I have been advised by many people to go for chemical peels, fairness facials, many home remedies to make myself look a bit fair. During my marriage looks, few guys who are darker than me too judged me as “she is dark”.
I don’t understand why people or parents make a person so conscious and insecure about their color. Being dark or dusky is not a sin. Added to all of it, TV channels, they all are flooded with fairness cream advertisements, and they teach that if you are not fair, you won’t be getting enough opportunities and you won’t be successful in life. Instead of building confidence in a person, media is teaching obsession to young girls and making them less confident.
I understand , this obsession is in our blood and takes time to realize the truth but how far is it right to put down a person for the darkness of their skin??
I strongly believe that skin colour doesn’t determine your worth as a person. You look best when you are comfortable in your skin. Just maintain a clean and clear skin, that’s perfect!
Don’t allow anyone to make you feel inferior because of your skin colour.
You are created by god with loads of love, you are not his flaw you are his favourite. Just Love yourself…
I love being unfair, do you??
beautifully and aptly written....the recent ad for a fairness skin shows a girl getting confidence to lay down her career plans in front of her father after using that cream, Yes sure and Oprah and Rihanna did the same I guess? Funny.....The way they depict fairness of skin= success in life I should be the Prime minister of India or so on, The comments I used to hear 'she is fair she will get a good husband' my thought "if he marries my skin then he can marry colgate toothpaste, why me?".
ReplyDelete"Any colour will suit you." "yes, so dress me like a clown with all those flashy over the top dresses as i am fair and dumb and don't have a brain.". My point every woman is beautiful because she is herself and no body else.
Indian Society obsession remains....
ReplyDeleteIf only people saw a person beyond his or her vanity..and babe you are beautiful. Why are we so obsessed about being fair when we r meant to be brown!! as a race!!
ReplyDeletelanded onto your blog by chance... And interestingly, before even reading the complete post I got a glimpse of the last line of your post. "Love being Unfair"? I was shocked to see it and then I checked the title once again :)....Finally managed to understand it all only after reading your post. :P
ReplyDeletePeople now a days are so fanatical about the exterior colour that they hardly try to notice the interior colour ;)
P.S . Loved the way you expressed.