The Haircut Psychology of Girls

When you find some girl suddenly cut her hair to shoulder length/short bob, remember it may not be to get a beautiful new look but to subside her inside voices. Sometimes it’s the change to break out her mood and to cope up with tough times in her life. It may not be fair to generalize the situation, but being a girl I have strong gut to believe in it.

If you don’t believe, then read further..

“HAIR” is the most favourite feature of woman (off course the male gender too love women with long hair) which shows her femininity and enhances her beauty.

 It is one of the physical feature which links to female emotions.. that is why many times you hear about bad hair day stories..

Hair represents femininity and beauty, it is praised as a sexual, sensual, beautiful thing by men.

And now why girls cut their hair to balance the inner war??

It signifies the new start and a sign of moving on, new hairstyle fill women heart with feelings of fresh start.

It changes the feelings from inside; sad soul is lightened up with new appearance and heals the torn heart.

It demonstrates that she is beautiful even while in pain

It throws an option “you are no more in my life and I am getting rid of the thing you love”

Boosts confidence and helps to accept “change may not be all that bad after all”

It is sign of boldness and emotional kick to men

It shows the world that you changed your life and feels liberating

So when you find your wife/sister/friend/ GF doing this, make a point to talk to them. It is sign that something is really bothering them.

Don't ignore it. If you do,Its not just her hair you lose...

P.S: Google too helped me in writing  and getting a picture for this post

You can't be afraid to love them

As I watch the five year old kid, my heart goes for him. I admire his innocence, the little hands that paint, tiny lips that pray. The joy that he shares with his friends, the care he takes of the younger ones. The only worry he has is how to win the bicycle race with his friend. He does not know the dark shades behind his sweet smile. 

He often questions himself that why he can’t be with his parents just like any other kid? Why he can’t be healthy like any other kids in school. Why always I & my friends fall sick often? 

That little brain doesn't understand that they have HIV Virus in them. It affects the immune system and body is prone to diseases.

Yes these are the questions in minds of many kids at Shanthi Ashram at Hyderabad . It is home for HIV positive kids, who acquired the infection during pregnancy, birth and breast feeding from the infected mothers. After birth the child is left or handed over to hospitals. The home provides health care, education to the kids for making kids independent.

It is a challenge for the organizers to take care of these kids and to give normal living style to them. The home faces many challenges to deal with the people nearby. 

The kids have no role to play in getting the disease, but they have to live with it. They have to face many hardships from the community which neglects them. 

I believe people with humanity and love respect such kids and helps them to lead normal life in schools etc. and will never make them feel that they are rejected kids. Apart from this, all of us has to strive to  integrate HIV positive girls and boys into mainstream society & allow them to lead normal life.

Today I take pledge that I would treat all of them equal with respect, love and affection. I would never create or be  a reason for any mental trauma to them.

Help them to lead normal life and bring them out of suicidal and depression. After all they have right to live.

You can visit  them @ http://shanthiashram.org

This entry is   for  ISB iDiya for IndiChange in collaboration with ISB -  http://www.isb.edu/idiya/

Image courtesy: http://shanthiashram.org

RIP Humanity

Twin bomb blasts on Thursday in Hyderabad left people in fear cloud. 15 people have lost their lives and 119 are injured. The victims are innocent common people from different classes and religions who wish to reach home safely. But the day ended in a gloomy way for them. Loss of innocent lives is tragic no matter why it happened and who did it? 

Let the reason may be terrorism or political conflict, the common man who is innocent is paying for the ill state of being. The act is done by heartless Humans. The bomb blasts were carried out by inferior cowards, and it doesn't matter if they are Hindu or Muslim, that was an act of cowardliness. Currently we are killing ourselves slowly, are we at brink of extinction of our human existence? 

We people talk about peace and harmony, whenever an incident like this happens, do a peace march, share the status,show anguish, write blogs, bitch government. Later after few days nobody cares for anybody. 

After every blast the government becomes emotional and every party blames the ruling party for the distress happened. All party leaders visit the victims; show their sympathy as part of their vote bank politics. People start blaming each religion and pick up indifferences. 

Politicians are busy in propagating their party and guarding their seats, media in flashing headlines to increase their fame.  In the dead there is a day wage labour who earns bread and butter for family, a mother, senior citizen and an aspiring student. What can compensate as substitute to their family? No value for life.

Politics & religion aside, we people must realize that we the innocent civilians on both sides of the conflict are dying. Focusing on the human rights, moral values are the need of the hour. We have to work towards positive solutions for humanitarian crisis. Humans should stop killing each other. No religion on earth teaches violence, and nobody is an enemy of any body. 

You cowards  responsible for this inhuman act, might have won in your  beliefs, but you are dead as a human being. No more to belong to this race.

Remember not all Muslims are culprits and not all Hindus are innocents.

“Be a Human being” & Live and Let Live “Humans” 

Never heard of a respectable woman being raped !,.?

"He never heard of a "respectable woman being raped in the country" 

‘I have not seen a single incident or example of rape with a respected lady. Even an underworld don would not like to touch a girl with respect.' 

-- Manohar Lal Sharma

It is unfair on the lawyer's part to make such generic statements. Then why a 7 year old girl in Goa was raped in school? Why a 4 year old girl was raped by bus conductor in school in Mumbai?? I am not talking about old cases these are the cases just happened after the Delhi rape case. Were they dressed pro-actively Or were they flaunting their curves? Were they Sexy not cute? Mr. Lawyer you have failed here with your logic. Bring justice and let the criminal be punished. 

Okay now, I want to know, how you define ‘Respectable Woman’. If you think a girl covered her skin completely is a respectable woman, tell me at what age and how much a girl should cover? 

Daughters, a matter of pride, but now every parent is worried and scared to a girl child. Anything anywhere can happen to them, girls are no safer anywhere that is the hard truth of the present society. 

Seriously people, where are we heading as a society? A Society with no human values?? We remain as the spectators of brutal acts and living our lives in fear and uncertainty.

Strict laws and severe punishment is what brings change in these brutes whose eyes are covered with lust. I hope government makes effort to bring out a good system to punish these animals.

Will we ever win war on cancer?

Mankind is being haunted by cancer and that remained largely incurable. People when they hear word “cancer” they become frightened and all their hopes fade away.

 It’s been more than 40 Forty years, man landed on the moon for the first time. Being so advanced, even after four decades, we couldn’t find a cure for cancer. Huge amount of money  is been spent across the globe on the so-called War on Cancer. Yet people watch friends and family die of cancer and the treatment available for cancer is just painful and toxic.

It is an embarrassment to the medical profession for not finding a way to cure the cancer at this time, with huge advancement in technology. We are anxious about the life on Mars but why are we so negligent about the lives on earth? This is where we belong and live..

Why there is no cure/ medicine to fight against cancer? Is medical profession using cancer as cash cow or the medicine is been controlled reaching people by big pharmaceutical companies that want to sustain? or is it  suppressed by special interest groups? or we are not so able to unveil nature secret? Whatever the reason could be, it is mere negligence of medical research for not able to give solutions to the burning issue. 

May be biologically, Cancer is the most deadly disease which is nearly impossible to cure, but every question has a solution. This medical industry understands the pain and suffering of the person & his family and provides best solution for survival . I hope it won't trade on bad health.

I hope one day in near future at least we could pave the way to turn cancer in to a manageable disease.

I want us to win war on cancer, yes I am selfish here, I want to save my beloved.

I am breaking my monotonous routine…

I live in multitasking mode, hurly burly my day starts

Pressure cooker on stove + keep warm-electric cooker+ coffee mug in hand+ checking mails +FB opening another tab+ Iron box gets heated up and that perfect time, phone rings, while I hang up the call, someone might have mentioned me in a tweet....!!

I start day on a busy note and head to work, and start a war with unread mails, unresolved issues, routine work…

Clock clicks 6 PM, I pack and head back to home thinking about pay cheques, Low battery phone, broken hearts, silent tears, unpaid bills..

I guess many of you might fall under this category.

I wonder, am I  really programmed to be so busy? Do I really live our life to the fullest? When I sit back to think about this, I don’t remember when I have listened to a good song (leaving apart the songs which I listen while driving) and a night falling asleep concentrating on my breathing. With these small pains, I drift away from the big plans, career goals and personal targets... I want to get back to my life and stay close with it..

You know now in my background Taylor Swift sings "But we are never ever ever ever getting back together"  isn't rude on her part? ;)

Anyways I dont worry about what taylor swift sings :P, I am changing the song from the  playlist and going ahead and see best i can make my routine interesting.

Well,  I can make it better by stopping multitasking, plan things in better way, have a hobby, not to over think etc etc. Well I know all these, but I lack in implementation, so now with good amount of determination i want to break the monotony of routine days .I made a to-do-list to help myself , here the activities I planned for self:

• Go to bed early
• Get up early in the morning
• Do Breathing Exercises in the Morning
• Join guitar classes
• Continue my sketching hobby
•  Lear to cook new dishes
• Call an old friend atleast  twice in a week
• Visit relatives on weekend
• Stop nagging myself
• Take care of health

As of now I have thought these many activities , I may add few more in course of time.. Leaving my routine apart, what have you thought to break monotony ?? please do share your ideas...

Love & Light

Bharathi.

I am Indian, not a “South Indian “

I lived in many states for quite good time and moved around different states and met many people in the process. I get along with people very well irrespective of their culture & language. But when  people discriminate me saying "southie" i feel really bad. FYI, I am very glad to call myself “an Indian” rather someone calling me a “South Indian”.

I feel so weird when someone points me saying many things and refers me as “South Indian” or Golti”. Excuse me!! I would like to object here…

Firstly, know which all states belong to south India, it’s not just madras. Try to know geography. I can understand your confusion but I don’t tolerate your ignorance.

Yes we are brown & dark skinned, so what?? I guess you are aware of world famous south Indian beauties Vyjantimala, Rekha, Hema Malini, Sridevi, Aishwarya Rai and Vidya Balan. Etc. So, don't generalize and hate everyone.I didn't decide my color neither you.

Yes we eat lot more of rice items like idly, dosa etc and we are experts in eating with our hands even on leaf, There is nothing to feel ashamed of it, please don’t act as if you are born with spoons and forks.

Don’t think all south Indians cannot speak Hindi, off course we have difference in our slang, communication is important rather being numb. So stop pointing out our Hindi. I hope you understand that,we speak our language in  our state and not Hindi.Tell me do you expect people in USA communicate with you in Hindi?

We have our native language influence on English, so what?? even  people from many other states too have that. FYI we are the one who are communicating with world better than many of you.

Don't call us narrow minded & conservative, our thoughts depend on your actions.. be good and we will be good to you.

Don’t call all south Indian movies as D grade movies, some of the best life stories were from South India.

Every person has his/her own perception about the people, places, culture and habits. I/we have no rights to say it right or wrong. After all who are we to judge? But I understand everyone has a opinion.


Don't bring your personal preferences in  here and start discrimination in one aspect or the other. In this century, even country  boundaries are wiped out, why do we just lag behind discriminating each other culture and habits.


P.S: I am not racist at all and i have no discrimination towards anyone, but someone shows off their attitude, i won't spare them.