Tuesday, February 8, 2011

I & U... What If we cud understand each other?

Women: Men won’t listen to women

Men: Women talk a lot

Men forget everything; Women remember everything.

Women: When a relationship ends, a woman will cry and pour her heart out to her girlfriends, and she will write a poem titled "All Men Are Idiots". Then she will get on with her life.

Men: A man has a little more trouble letting go. Six months after the break-up, at 3:00 a.m. on a Saturday night, he will call and say, "I just wanted to let you know you ruined my life, and I'll never forgive you, and I hate you, and you're a total floozy. But I want you to know that there's always a chance for us." This is known as the "I Hate You / I Love You" drunken phone call, that 99% of all men has made at least once.
 
Women take clothing much more seriously than men. I've never seen a man walk into a party and say "Oh, my God, I'm so embarrassed; get me out of here. There's another man wearing a black blazer.”

Hmmm the list goes on…

Human Race is categorized based on gender. From the day a person is born he/she is identified by the gender. Gender issues started from the day god created EVE and ADAM. Till now the men and women are trying to cope up with each other.

Difference in opinions, thoughts, interests, actions, decisions. They just complain at each other. I have a question do we really need/possible to have some one who is similar in thoughts and interests. Isn’t boring?? Right?

In relation if you respect each other opinions or interests, u can explore many new things together. Rather doing that, we make the relationship complicated and then search for help over  friends,Google and online forums. “How to make my GF/BF/partner happy and what could be my next step?” Do we really have to change ourselves based on some articles and books?

Gals change to please their boyfriend and change themselves and after quite time u r not the one whom he loved. There!!! Starts the clash “u have changed” “no you have changed” CRAP!! Y don’t you understand that the other person has chosen you over everybody, without any logic or theory he/she has fallen in love with you and today you try applying the theories and judge your partner ?

To put it in simple terms “Men” struggle every day to meet the goals imposed by the society, are expected to hold down steady jobs, provide for themselves and their families and to do everything (including in relationships) with "honor". It doesn’t mean that women are not under such obligations. Women too work and try to make a perfect home and are tired of doing both.

Both men and women are:

Self-centered & selfish, Deep inside everyone is looking for love ,Will start a fight either side, will lose temper, Need appreciation from the other, Jealous, suspicious

Women view commitment as security, future, family, love, closeness, support and many other "good" things, men often view commitment as responsibility, stress, loss of freedom, loss of choice, a life of toiling to meet the demands of that relationship, and many other "bad" things! In fact, these are very common feelings among most men.

There are differences, coz of various reasons (biological and societal) , but we need each other. When you love ur partner, we don’t see the flaws. Discuss, respect each other opinions. Give preference to each other U can built your own wonderful & beautiful world. Don’t ever give up a relation .Be careful with your words. Once they’re said, they can only be forgiven, NOT forgotten.

Girls,

Don't search for Prince Charming! They don’t exist, or married, engaged, gay, or don’t know what they want. LOWER ur expectations. If he wants you, he’ll say it, if he cares, he’ll show it. If not, he's not worth your time! So try NOT to fall for someone who isn’t willing to catch you and curse the rest.


Guyz ,
Treat women the same way you would want your daughter to be treated. Why cheat in relationships? If you’re not happy, be honest and finish the relationship with some dignity

Finally Life's to short to hide feelings. So don’t be afraid to tell people how u feel. You never know if they have the same feelings

At the end of the day, Being loved in return brings you happiness words can't explain

So Guyz & Gals…
 
When you are wrong, admit it; when you are right, shut the hell up.. 

Cheers,
Bharathi.

P.S: Few lines are quoted from internet sources.



5 comments:

  1. I understand that the purpose of this blog is to express ur views. So, it's ok if they're subjective. But, I beg to differ on most of ur views. The entire conflict lies in perceiving them as 2 different genders. Why can't they be treated as equals? Why can't a gal get into a relation with out expecting security? Since the creation of Adam & Eve we're programmed in a certain way. For instance, I haven't come across a female fallen to a weaker guy. When there are subsonsious calculations are involved for both genders in getting into a relationship, why blame each other?

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  2. ya i do agree with you. as you know ours is a male dominating society, and companionship with men always gives secured feeling to women.that is how we r brought up. now we can't change the system. the change should be from the individual. both the genders should stop expecting from each other.try to understand the scope n hv to cope up with each other.

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  3. well expressed...
    All girls should take your advice about that part on prince charming! Same for the guys' advice.
    Are you a relationship counsellor? Because by the way you've expressed all that, you seem to have sorted it all out!(Don't take it personally but.)

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  4. Men and are from earth and women too are from earth...they better deal with that! The clash of the sexes is an absurd one!

    Nice post thr!

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  5. @Xeno: Hey,there is no need for any gal or guy to take my advice,everyone has their own views.I hv just have put down whtever i hv read and understood. though ur comment look sarcastic, but feels gud tht u thought i am a relationship counsellor..

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