This, I suppose

I have many questions running in my mind and want to tell people.

First thing, while crossing road though I show sign of crossing, but still y do u come in the same speed? Do u think I can cross so fast or just fly over the vehicles?

You can see the traffic jam and know that no one can move out of it or at least an inch, but y do u still honk? Foolish Right? Do U expect someone to pull you out of it?

I am happy that you have a horn to warn people, but why do u have tht weird sounds, which may cause heart attack to people.

I know the road is so congested and walking in tht congestion is a night mare, but still y do u dash others n walk.. Man!! No one is jobless here... Even we r in hurry.

If you have coins, please give to beggars otherwise, be calm coz I hate listening to ur argument and explanation with beggars at the signals... plz don’t do tht…

And here to all auto guys, don’t think tht ppl r foolish and just pay whtever u ask for, how silly the other day one guy was demanding Rs.50/- for 2 km tht too 9.00 AM in the morning… Ufff… just sick.

I understand that mobile phone is an awesome invention, which connects ppl wherever they r, but still don’t speak so loud in public places, which disturbs one’s peace and importantly plz turn off ur loud speaker whn ur MP3 player is on.. it just sucks to hear to ur music..

I find many people just spitting on the roads, I can’t ask them ye? But want to tell them not to do at least when a person is nearby, they just spit on ur feet EWWWWWW.

Plz don’t spit from the bus, u never know where and on whom it is going to fall. I am victim of it.

Guys u r so blessed to have a rich cars and an awesome music system in it, but it doesn’t mean that there is no limit for ur speed and music volume, have a little concern and maintain certain road manners.

Don’t be bitter if people over take u, that’s fine, buddy... Be safe… tht matters!!

Though I still complain about how people act and the stupid things they have to change, I understand one has his/ her own freedom to act... But I warn not at the cost of other’s inconvenience.

I guess, this is wht I suppose right now

Gud Day!! 

25 F@cts @bout ME

1. I am rude, which ppl usually won’t recognize
2. I like to write on paper rather writing here. But I love to write here coz I want to read this blog when I am old and laugh back at my stupidity or craziness
3. I hate people who r not punctual, irresponsible, I never excuse them though I pretend doing so.
4. I am less productive at work after 2.00 PM
5. I talk a lot
6. I am very sensitive & emotional , a small sad story can move me to the core
7. I love to be alone for smtime in a day ( which I practice every day)
8. Smtimes, I am lazy, crazy, stubborn, arrogant
9. At times, I behave like a kid , which piss off people
10. I don’t get angry soon
11. I am obsessed with clothes and footwear ( thought I control myself badly )
12. I love to get a tattoo
13. when I am down, I go for walk alone with gud music and shop
14. I love to watch movie on big screen sipping a large coke( full of ice cubes)
15. I want to cut my hair every 2months & get a new style.
16. I feel like I'm living in some kind of void.
17. I come up with typically weird ideas
18. I like to bargain. Esp in these cheap markets. It looks so good and colorful.
19. I'm too honest but that doesn’t mean I can’t lie well.
20. I love writing and making lists
21. I love long rides
22. I hate when some1 doesn't reply to my email, message or don't return my calls
23. I don’t like nerd guys.
24. I want to become a Entrepreneur
25. Last but not the least; I am a very kind person ;)


Cya..


P.S: things which cropped up in my mind at this point of time... There may be additions too.

THE ART OF EMPOWERING A MAN

Just as men need to learn the art of listening to fulfill a woman's primary love needs, women need to learn the art of empowerment. When women enlist the support of a man, she empowers him to be all that he can be. A man feels empowered when he is trusted accepted, appreciated, admired, approved of, and encouraged.

Many women try to help their man by improving him but unknowingly weaken or hurt him. Any attempt to change him takes away the loving trust. Acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement are his primary needs.

The secret of empowering a man is never to try to change him or improve him. Certainly you may want him to change-just don't act on that desire. Only if he directly and specifically asks for advice is he open to assistance in changing.

“Give Trust and Not Advice”

She tries to change him or improve him. She thinks her attempts to change him love, but he feels controlled, manipulated, rejected, and unloved. He will stubbornly reject her because he feels she is rejecting him. When a woman tries to change a man, he is not getting the loving trust and acceptance he actually needs to change and grow.

The problem is that when a man resists her attempts to improve him, she misinterprets his response. She mistakenly thinks he is not willing to change, probably because he does not love her enough. The truth is, however, that he is resistant to changing because he believes he is not being loved enough. When a man feels loved, trusted, accepted, appreciated, and so forth, automatically he begins to change, grow, and improve.

When a man does not feel loved just the way he is, he will either consciously or unconsciously repeat the behavior that is not being accepted. He feels an inner compulsion to repeat the behavior until he feels loved and accepted.

For a man to improve himself he needs to feel loved in an accepting way. Otherwise he defends himself .He needs to feel accepted just the way he is, and then he, on his own, will look for ways to improve.

Men motto is "Don't fix it, if it isn't broken." When a woman attempts to change a man, he receives the message that she thinks he is broken. This hurts a man and makes him very defensive. He doesn't feel loved and accepted.

A man needs to be accepted regardless of his imperfections. To accept a person's imperfections is not easy. Especially when we see how he could become better. It does, however, become easier when we understand that the best way to help him grow is to let go of trying to change him in any way. 

 

Take care,

Bharathi.

The Magic of Love is Lost ! ! !

How does it happen?
Why does it happen?
Why does it happen to us?

Each day millions of people are searching for a partner to experience that special loving feeling.

Each year, millions of couples fall in love and then get separated as they have lost that loving feeling.

People who are married, only 50 percent stay together & another 50 percent are not satisfied in their life, but still stay together out of obligations.

To answer these questions, we should consider few people who are able to grow in love. Yes, it does happen when men and women are able to respect and accept their differences, then love has a chance to blossom.

Men and women are not aware of that they have different emotional needs. Men typically give in relationships what men want, while women give what women want. Each mistakenly assumes that the other has the same needs and desires. As a result they both end up dissatisfied.

Both men and women feel they give and give but do not get back. They feel their love isUnacknowledged and unappreciated. The truth is they are both giving love but not in the desired manner.

Men mistakenly expect women to think, communicate, and react the way men do; women mistakenly expect men to feel, communicate, and respond the way women do.

We have forgotten that men and women are supposed to be different. As a result, our relationships are filled with unnecessary friction and conflict.

Clearly recognizing and respecting these differences dramatically reduce confusion. And, more important, we can learn how to best love and support the people we care about.

Give space to ur partners & trust them...

Love is magical, and it can last, if we remember our differences.

Bharathi...


P.S: few lines are quoted from Book

My New Job Experience

Day 1:
Reached Hyderabad at 6.00 AM, took an auto to aunt’s house got fresh and left to office with full of enthu… :-)

After reaching office,

Me: Hai, I am bharathi, iwould like to meet Mr. Zameer Ahmed,
Receptionist : Ya plz wait for sometime
After 1 hr 15 min...
The guy called me n asked me to meet the Director, I went, spoke to him, he gave me sm project docs n asked me to go through them.I took them n sat in discussion room.. after 30 min they have allotted a new desk for me.. I was thinking wow these guys r quick on feet.. I went and sat thr.. My first shock was “There is no internet connection available..:-( Felt very down..

I was already down with fever and severe cold.. by 12.15 pm I was completely sick n was not able to look at monitor and the docs.. thought of leaving the place early, but none of the heads were present.. so I hve to wait for those guys. Later around 5 I left office, reached home and slept  nearly for 2 hrs.. wooooo tht was my first day.. A mixed feeling ...

Day 2:
Director assigned a new task, as no one initiated to talk to me.. I went n introduced myself to the ppl near my desk, felt better.. the day passed quite smoothly  reading through all the docs,..

Quite a better day compared to first day

Day 3:
I felt I hv got used to this place .. after reaching the office started working straight away,day was gud.. but wrt  work I am not tht excited as it was again the same thing, wht I use to do in the previous company..

Hoping I will get use to this place soon or I wil get out of this place soon..

Either of the thing wil happen soon..;)
Ciao,
Bharathi

P.S:Hey budies do wish me gud luck .. whtever may be the output of this