Being Unfair

On weekends, one should get lucky to get a vacant trail room as soon as you want to try a dress. On such a busy Sunday, I was waiting for my turn to try a dress. There I found this girl who almost picked up many clothes to try accompanied by her mom. Whatever she wears her mom says only one thing "ee colour suit avvadu ra nee colour ki konchem vere colour try cheyi"  (color doesn’t suit on you, may be you have to try another one) and the girl kept on saying "konchem tellaga undalisindi amma nenu" (I should have been a bit fair ).

Crap!! Every dress she wore was just looking perfect on her. The girl was really pretty with proper body curves and above all she had a very beautiful smile.

I am also a dusky skinned girl woman. Whenever I visit any beauty parlour, first thing they tell me is my skin is so tanned and I should try anti-tan pack, I always tell them, “that is my original skin colour” and lord sun has not played any role in it. I have been advised by many people to go for chemical peels, fairness facials, many home remedies to make myself look a bit fair. During my marriage looks, few guys who are darker than me too judged me as “she is dark”.

I don’t understand why people or parents make a person so conscious and insecure about their color. Being dark or dusky is not a sin. Added to all of it, TV channels, they all are flooded with fairness cream advertisements, and they teach that if you are not fair, you won’t be getting enough opportunities and you won’t be successful in life. Instead of building confidence in a person, media is teaching obsession to young girls and making them less confident.

I understand , this obsession is in our blood and takes time to realize the truth but how far is it right to put down a person for the darkness of their skin??

I strongly believe that skin colour doesn’t determine your worth as a person. You look best when you are comfortable in your skin. Just maintain a clean and clear skin, that’s perfect!
Don’t allow anyone to make you feel inferior because of your skin colour. 

You are created by god with loads of love, you are not his flaw you are his favourite. Just Love yourself…

I love being unfair, do you??

Life doesn't have to be perfect!!

Disclaimer: This is not an interesting post, it is just a scribble; No gyan is guaranteed after reading the post. If you wish to kill some time, please go ahead 

Just wondering how many times we might have run behind something which we think is everything. There are many things in life, you want them, but you can never get them. For some things you have substitutes but for some you can’t. Even substitutes may make you feel BETTER but not the SAME.

Sometimes you meet someone and you know it is not going to be a perfect relation; you get into a job which is not perfect for you, at times you dress imperfect etc... There could be many things which are incompatible to you. But for some odd reason you want to give it a try for hell of it.

From a year, my life was not going in the way I imagined; I plan something and some other thing gets implemented. All through mixed emotions overruled me; I just sit and wonder how??What?? Why? All I know is new life waits for me but I am stuck, something is resisting me and holding me back. One day I broke the stillness; it was ME who was holding everything.

It may sound strange, but I was the one, who is not able to appreciate what’s in front of me, I realized it’s more important to measure good things what you actually have in your life. Just count your blessings is the mantra to be happy. 

When we fail, we get disappointed but we are going learn and they make us confident and strong. That’s how an individual grows and evolves. So at the end that is what matters most.

Now I realize about being perfect, may or may not exist. I think imperfect is the one for me, just like the imperfection in us. Its okay life doesn’t have to be perfect, it just have to be lived.

I have accepted that happiness is not in being perfect, Happiness is not about having what you want but wanting what you have.

we all feel screwed up sometimes, but that's okay.Be happy and enjoy each and every moment in life, Never have regrets, everything happens for a reason. Don’t hold on grudges, karma will take care.

Be loyal and committed in relationships, don’t let the insecurities and ego ruin whole of it. Never leave your passion; at the end it brings you recognition.

Importantly, Age is for your body, it’s not for your heart and mind.. So never worry that your are getting old.

P.S : This post is written from mobile, bear with any typos

P.S.S.: I took break from work, it is so awesome to have time for myself 

No Name Post..

I hear many times girls & boys having 5, 6, 7 breakups. I wonder how someone can fall in love many times. Though  people say it is quite possible.

But what I feel is none of them are seriously in the relationship that was more of time pass  than a serious one. Those are not the love stories; trust me they are just "Lust Stories". Well, they could be stories made out of necessity.

The meaning of the Love is slowly fading away, the three words used to generate chills in one’s body, but now they just roll from the lips just like that. Walking hand in hand, candle light dinners, love letters... seems to be a stupid ways. Now a days everything is replaced by wild sex acts involving  love making in deserted places or in the cars.

Relationships are made just like that; someone is madly in love with a girl/boy met in a party, they drink and roam around. Many people just hook around with their buddies with few drinks. And they blame the drink for getting them hooked.

I feel pathetic that emotions have become so cheap and valueless. How long one keep going around like this? What if one day you wake up and feel that u need a shoulder to lean, hold your hand, and listen to your problems. Hug you and say everything is going to be fine. What if when you want someone to share your joys, care for you, pat your shoulder for your success, and be with u for celebrations?

Think a moment!!! Can you say I Love You truly to someone who means a lot to you?

These relationships last till Lust exists, so look for someone who has godly love in u, who makes you feel that he/she belongs to you and enjoy the eternal feeling of love.

Let’s not “LOVE- a Divine Madness” bite us back.

Cherish the sweet thing in right way and have happy life.


P.s:It is my own view, i don't want to offend any one , i further  understand it is democratic country and everyone are free to live their life in the way they want.

She knows...He will...

It was 2AM, Sirisha was thirsty,opened her eyes and heard a knock of the door, She got up ,opened, and confirmed it was wind. She got back to her position on bed and saw Sanju moving uncomfortably, his blanket  isn't covering him at all.She patted him and covered him with blanket

Few seconds later, she heard a familiar sound, and sensed warmth near her ears that was Sanju, She could smell him she just turned, and placed his head on her chest, Sanju  put his hands around her. Looking at Sanju, Sirisha  sensed that his world is perfect now. They kissed each other and again he closed his eyes….

She knows, he will sleep well now…:)

P.S :Sleeping next to someone you love makes falling asleep easier, reduces depression risk and helps you live longer.

 

 

"U Turn"

Just wondering how many times we might have run behind something which we think is everything. Definitely many of us many times, aren’t we? There are many things in life, somehow we want them, but we can’t have them. In many things you have alternative, but the things won’t make you feel the same, definitely they could make you feel better but not “SAME”. Alternatives are sometimes more practical, but they never satisfy your carving and never make you feel the same...

Sometimes you meet someone and you know it is not going to be a perfect relation; You opt for a course and realize it is wrong decision, you get into a job which is not perfect to you, at times you dress imperfect etc... There could be many things which are incompatible to you. But for some odd reason you want to give it a try for hell of it. Most of us make mistakes by choosing wrong choices. After reaching certain point we question ourselves “Where am I going??” “Why is this happening?”.We feel guilty, broken and lost. Remember whatever happens life has to move on…

We are not perfect and we make mistakes along the way. But when you understand by taking "U"Turn, you can always be on the right track and move in the right direction, however many mistakes and setbacks you may encounter on the way treat them as lessons which make you stronger than yesterday. And remember; don’t just look forward to reaching the destination. Enjoy the journey too.

Happiness is not about having what you want but wanting what you have.

You are born to be real, not perfect!! Look beyond the Imperfections and enjoy the life..

 

 

 

Make no one wait...

Many of us work really hard, stretch working hours. We all want to value our job more than anything in life. Career, money, status. In process we miss out many things like family, friends & many more things.

I too belong to that group of people who always say “I have no leaves” If I have to attend some weddings or some function at home.

My sister had a medical problem where she was at home under medication, I used to visit home every month and stay for a week. My sister always wanted me to take a break for few months and be with her at home. I always said, “Oh!!that is not possible, I may fall back in this competitive world. That discussion went on for 1 year, finally I won. I continued my job and kept visiting home bimonthly.

Later my sister became bed ridden and I was there with her but unless watching her suffering I could not do anything.

And today she is no more with us, even if I think of spending time with her I could not.

I wish, If I have taken break and spent time with my sister, at least I would have had some memorable moments with her and today I may not have this regret in my heart.

Don't make people wait, because they can wait for you.

You never know you may not have people when you really want to be with them..

Slums - Through the lens

Improper sanitation
 poor quality of drinking water
unlivable housing
Unhygenic living conditions
poor economic status

 gender inequality
Illiteracy
domestic violence, 
child labour, crimes 

All these prevail in the slums of any city .Slums in urban India symbolise both hope and despair

Nearly one in every six urban Indian residents lives in a slum, newly released Census data shows. Roughly 1.37 crore households, or 17.4% of urban Indian households lived in a slum in 2011.38 % of the slum households are in 46 Million Plus Cities. 45% of the slum households live in one room.

Many schemes/programs, crores of rupees is being spent in improving and arresting the future growth of slums, but still slums remain as slums.

Many authorities assume/think there is no solution and it is never easy to arrest slums hence they ignore slums.

So?? Are we purposefully ignoring the problem???

 Here I present few Random clicks in slums

Kids help their mom to fill water

Post-lunch chit chat

Little girl putting all her energy to fill the bucket

Just posing for picture

A housewife washing clothes on the road

An old man  in a dilapidated house

A ray hope-will any scheme change my fate?

Lady making bangles

No photographs please- A lady washing clothes in front of house

Jardosi work

A puzzled old man, cooking his food