Never heard of a respectable woman being raped !,.?

"He never heard of a "respectable woman being raped in the country" 

‘I have not seen a single incident or example of rape with a respected lady. Even an underworld don would not like to touch a girl with respect.' 

-- Manohar Lal Sharma

It is unfair on the lawyer's part to make such generic statements. Then why a 7 year old girl in Goa was raped in school? Why a 4 year old girl was raped by bus conductor in school in Mumbai?? I am not talking about old cases these are the cases just happened after the Delhi rape case. Were they dressed pro-actively Or were they flaunting their curves? Were they Sexy not cute? Mr. Lawyer you have failed here with your logic. Bring justice and let the criminal be punished. 

Okay now, I want to know, how you define ‘Respectable Woman’. If you think a girl covered her skin completely is a respectable woman, tell me at what age and how much a girl should cover? 

Daughters, a matter of pride, but now every parent is worried and scared to a girl child. Anything anywhere can happen to them, girls are no safer anywhere that is the hard truth of the present society. 

Seriously people, where are we heading as a society? A Society with no human values?? We remain as the spectators of brutal acts and living our lives in fear and uncertainty.

Strict laws and severe punishment is what brings change in these brutes whose eyes are covered with lust. I hope government makes effort to bring out a good system to punish these animals.

Will we ever win war on cancer?

Mankind is being haunted by cancer and that remained largely incurable. People when they hear word “cancer” they become frightened and all their hopes fade away.

 It’s been more than 40 Forty years, man landed on the moon for the first time. Being so advanced, even after four decades, we couldn’t find a cure for cancer. Huge amount of money  is been spent across the globe on the so-called War on Cancer. Yet people watch friends and family die of cancer and the treatment available for cancer is just painful and toxic.

It is an embarrassment to the medical profession for not finding a way to cure the cancer at this time, with huge advancement in technology. We are anxious about the life on Mars but why are we so negligent about the lives on earth? This is where we belong and live..

Why there is no cure/ medicine to fight against cancer? Is medical profession using cancer as cash cow or the medicine is been controlled reaching people by big pharmaceutical companies that want to sustain? or is it  suppressed by special interest groups? or we are not so able to unveil nature secret? Whatever the reason could be, it is mere negligence of medical research for not able to give solutions to the burning issue. 

May be biologically, Cancer is the most deadly disease which is nearly impossible to cure, but every question has a solution. This medical industry understands the pain and suffering of the person & his family and provides best solution for survival . I hope it won't trade on bad health.

I hope one day in near future at least we could pave the way to turn cancer in to a manageable disease.

I want us to win war on cancer, yes I am selfish here, I want to save my beloved.

I am breaking my monotonous routine…

I live in multitasking mode, hurly burly my day starts

Pressure cooker on stove + keep warm-electric cooker+ coffee mug in hand+ checking mails +FB opening another tab+ Iron box gets heated up and that perfect time, phone rings, while I hang up the call, someone might have mentioned me in a tweet....!!

I start day on a busy note and head to work, and start a war with unread mails, unresolved issues, routine work…

Clock clicks 6 PM, I pack and head back to home thinking about pay cheques, Low battery phone, broken hearts, silent tears, unpaid bills..

I guess many of you might fall under this category.

I wonder, am I  really programmed to be so busy? Do I really live our life to the fullest? When I sit back to think about this, I don’t remember when I have listened to a good song (leaving apart the songs which I listen while driving) and a night falling asleep concentrating on my breathing. With these small pains, I drift away from the big plans, career goals and personal targets... I want to get back to my life and stay close with it..

You know now in my background Taylor Swift sings "But we are never ever ever ever getting back together"  isn't rude on her part? ;)

Anyways I dont worry about what taylor swift sings :P, I am changing the song from the  playlist and going ahead and see best i can make my routine interesting.

Well,  I can make it better by stopping multitasking, plan things in better way, have a hobby, not to over think etc etc. Well I know all these, but I lack in implementation, so now with good amount of determination i want to break the monotony of routine days .I made a to-do-list to help myself , here the activities I planned for self:

• Go to bed early
• Get up early in the morning
• Do Breathing Exercises in the Morning
• Join guitar classes
• Continue my sketching hobby
•  Lear to cook new dishes
• Call an old friend atleast  twice in a week
• Visit relatives on weekend
• Stop nagging myself
• Take care of health

As of now I have thought these many activities , I may add few more in course of time.. Leaving my routine apart, what have you thought to break monotony ?? please do share your ideas...

Love & Light

Bharathi.

I am Indian, not a “South Indian “

I lived in many states for quite good time and moved around different states and met many people in the process. I get along with people very well irrespective of their culture & language. But when  people discriminate me saying "southie" i feel really bad. FYI, I am very glad to call myself “an Indian” rather someone calling me a “South Indian”.

I feel so weird when someone points me saying many things and refers me as “South Indian” or Golti”. Excuse me!! I would like to object here…

Firstly, know which all states belong to south India, it’s not just madras. Try to know geography. I can understand your confusion but I don’t tolerate your ignorance.

Yes we are brown & dark skinned, so what?? I guess you are aware of world famous south Indian beauties Vyjantimala, Rekha, Hema Malini, Sridevi, Aishwarya Rai and Vidya Balan. Etc. So, don't generalize and hate everyone.I didn't decide my color neither you.

Yes we eat lot more of rice items like idly, dosa etc and we are experts in eating with our hands even on leaf, There is nothing to feel ashamed of it, please don’t act as if you are born with spoons and forks.

Don’t think all south Indians cannot speak Hindi, off course we have difference in our slang, communication is important rather being numb. So stop pointing out our Hindi. I hope you understand that,we speak our language in  our state and not Hindi.Tell me do you expect people in USA communicate with you in Hindi?

We have our native language influence on English, so what?? even  people from many other states too have that. FYI we are the one who are communicating with world better than many of you.

Don't call us narrow minded & conservative, our thoughts depend on your actions.. be good and we will be good to you.

Don’t call all south Indian movies as D grade movies, some of the best life stories were from South India.

Every person has his/her own perception about the people, places, culture and habits. I/we have no rights to say it right or wrong. After all who are we to judge? But I understand everyone has a opinion.


Don't bring your personal preferences in  here and start discrimination in one aspect or the other. In this century, even country  boundaries are wiped out, why do we just lag behind discriminating each other culture and habits.


P.S: I am not racist at all and i have no discrimination towards anyone, but someone shows off their attitude, i won't spare them.

To the "Aunt of 21st Century"

Every family member is unique in their own way. I come from a big family where my mother has dozens of cousins, and all my aunts are my close friends in the family. I talk and share a lot with them more than my cousins. Every aunt plays a unique role in my life. One supports my naughtiness, one gives me strength in my failures, and other helps out to escape from unwanted things. Aunts usually are very important part of our lives. They are the ones who always be there to listen to me.

In this lot, I am blessed with a wonderful aunt (i.e my Peddamma - my mom’s elder sister), she is a brilliant lady, known for her style in the family, a lady with fine charm and intelligence. Though she is 63 years old, her heart and brain is always young. She is brave woman with kind heart and shows pure love on all of us. She has broad thinking, brilliant in facing & assessing  life situations.She is only aunt who can make skype call in our family. 

 

Today I regret for not having her with us :(

I opened my eyes, wiping my tears, 

Looking at the stars, 

A voice from sky said
“Her work on Earth is done.”

Dear Pedamma,

I MISS,

Our sit outs in your lawn and

All our long talks, about your childhood memories

Naughty stories of all mamas childhood

Tiring shopping days

That home facials and pedicure sessions

That long days we spent looking at old photographs and your silk saris

Small scary rides of us on kinetic Honda

Playing dumb charades,movies at Club

Long hours at beauty parlours

That Fear of sharing my secrets

Gossips we share

Homemade panner, milk shakes and special burji made by you.
 

I regret that I didn’t get the chance to say my last good-bye.I didn’t think you could ever leave us so early. I hope this pain would disappear.

 

I know that you are at eternal home with god; he wanted you back. At this time you may be standing at golden gates of heaven and looking down on us. Probably you may be angry on us for crying, we shouldn’t be crying because this is not how you would want it to be.

It has hurt all of us when you left that day and our hearts became sore. But I promise, we try hard and will become strong and get through this and make you proud of us

We will hold all the memories deep in our hearts. You will always be remembered every single day. 

 

WE MISS YOU...

Do we need a Role model?

In walk of our lives, we meet many people, learn many things from many. Sometimes many inspire us to achieve certain goals and few remain as our role models in life. 

Here, what triggered in my mind is “Do we need a Role Model?” someone has yearned for some goals and achieved it with his level of problems and solutions which he has applied. If so, why should one follow role model, isn’t it like following someone else dreams and trying to achieve them .

Are we not restricting our self wanting to be like someone? closing our self and just seeing role model goal as ours? 

Don't just dream that wasn’t yours, Thinking that it would bring  the happiness as it brought to others.

So what do you say?

Take care of yourself...

I feel things are going too fast and I have to try hard to pull time to breath. The other night, I was thinking that, I have reached mid of the year, when I look back I don't remember how the days passed, weekdays go in working at office and weekends with the other core works.Life is busy and it always pulls me in million directions.

I see many young people who are raising their families at younger age with huge responsibilities, probably they never find time to take care of themselves.All their energies go in to helping and taking care of families & other things. I hear from many about their feelings of helplessness to dedicate some amount of time for themselves. Most of the active day goes in  working, few more hours in family cores. They get irritated with the ups and downsin life and lose all control.

I'm wondering how people deal and  How is everyone else doing?

Still the question triggering in  my mind is "Is it bad to be selfish and take care of oneself ?"  to me it is not, one must take care of themselves to help others. Pull out time for yourself, do something which makes you happy. You can rejuvenate and can be more effective & efficient in handling your families & your life.

That is what I feel? what is your opinion?